Back Room Pleasures: a Gay Man’s Guide to Sex in the Bar”.
When it comes to enjoying the physical pleasure of other men, nothing beats the dirty, sexy thrill of barroom pick-ups. Whether the back room is a dark, secluded annex or an upstairs hideaway, it’s always a place for mystery and excitement – and it offers a heady, sensual playground for man-on-man sex. Entering the bar might mean anything from an anonymous glance across the room to a flirtatious advance and a secret, furtive rendezvous. But one thing is for sure: the back room is a place of hidden pleasures and secret delight. This guide will show you the way to the hottest, steamiest gay sex encounters in your city – if you know how to tap into its secrets and pleasures. So let’s dive into the dark, atmospheric world of gay backroom sex and explore its tantalizing, sometimes perilous rewards.
Table of Contents
- 1. Prepare for the Adventure: Dress to Impress
- 2. Playing the Field: Identifying and Pursuing Your Desired Encounter
- 3. Making Moves: How and When to Make Your Move in the Back Room
- 4. Playing it Safe: Tips for Practicing Safe Sex in the Bar Scene
- In Retrospect
1. Prepare for the Adventure: Dress to Impress
Once you’re in the bar, it’s time to be confident and let your body do the talking! Avoid revealing suggestive clothing, and instead dress in a semi-formal or dressy casual manner to give off an air of class and subtly intrigue others. Wear fitted clothing and accessorize conservatively. This is the perfect time to be a bit more daring and show off your style. Deep burgundy or navy hues look best. Iron your shirt, fold your pocket square, and wear nice, sleek shoes.
Arrival is when the preparation pays off. Make sure you strut in with confidence knowing that you’ll arrive looking sharp. While a little scruff is always attractive, well groomed facial hair can also be the perfect touch. When entering the bar, take notice of the others around you. Smiling and subtle flirting are great ways to show your best visuals without saying a word. Giving someone a quick graze with your eyes may draw some attention, and some might take the time to appreciate your look and come up to chat.
- When getting dressed for the night, opt for semi-formal or dressy casual attire for maximum intrigue.
- Accessorize to give off an air of class and confidence.
- Boldly make eye contact and subtly flirt with a smile.
- Well groomed facial hair is always attractive.
2. Playing the Field: Identifying and Pursuing Your Desired Encounter
The daters’ guide to an exciting night at the bar starts with identifying your desired encounter – the one that will leave you with great memories. Gay men across the nation frequent the backrooms of popular bars, nightclubs and venues to get a taste of the experience.
The key to finding that desired encounter is to start by understanding the backroom scene and all its nuances. Knowing what kind of situations to expect and how to interact helps you a long way in your search for the night’s delight. Here are a few tips for identifying and pursuing your desired encounter:
- It’s all about exploration and discovery. As you explore the backroom, you come across new possibilities and discover new opportunities for sexual encounters. Be willing to explore and try out whatever catches your fancy.
- Be aware of the unwritten rules and etiquette of the backroom. Pay attention to the cues you receive from other men and make sure to adhere to the established hierarchies. Respect those in dominant positions and never disrespect those in lower positions.
- Be open to meeting new people. Don’t be too shy or too inhibited to reach out and connect with someone in the backroom. Take the effort to meet new guys and make connections.
Whether it’s a quick encounter or an extended encounter, approval needs to be sought and consent must be given before any sexual activities happen. Respect the boundaries set up by each person involved and be creative in your pursuit of the desired encounter. Remember to have fun and stay safe on your quest for back room pleasures. Have a good time, be discreet and enjoy yourself – these are the principles for making the most out of your gay nightlife.
3. Making Moves: How and When to Make Your Move in the Back Room
Put Yourself Out There
Gay men are far bolder than they are given credit for. Don’t be afraid to be seen in the back room. Make an effort to hold on to the aura of confidence, and you will be rewarded. After you make it through the door, scan the area for potential hookups—eye contact with another man alone is usually a sign that you know who you are looking for. After you make a selection, move toward him with your head held high and a smile on your face. Ask him a question or make small talk. Even if he is not interested, all you have lost is a few moments in the back room. Keep searching! There are plenty of willing partners waiting to be found.
When The Time Is Right
- Be willing to experiment
- Show off your skills
- Be confident and assertive
- Don’t be afraid to make the first move
- Be aware of cues and body language
Once you’ve identified a sexual connection and you’re ready to make a move, be aware of your partner’s cues. Be sensitive to them when you’re making your advances and do not come on too strong. If they are receptive to you, it is time to make your move. Feel free to hold hands, gently caress their torso, or lean in for a passionate kiss. When the time is right, suggest that you both take it to the next level in a private setting. Offer to explore each other’s bodies in a much deeper way. If they are open to the idea, suggest you go somewhere more private. And from there, the night is yours!
4. Playing it Safe: Tips for Practicing Safe Sex in the Bar Scene
- Always Wear A Condom
Wherever you go and whatever you do, this should always be a priority. Wrap it up and stay safe! A premature orgasm and an awkward trip to the doctor’s office are not worth the thrill of going raw. Take the time to equip yourself appropriately; you’ll thank yourself for it later.
- Know Your Limits
Draw the line in the sand ahead of time and make sure your bar date knows to respect it. Do you want to go heavy with the bondage and experiment with pain? Maybe you just like a little nipple play here and there? Know your desires and communicate them in advance. Respect the boundaries of your partner and be prepared for him to do the same. Be sure to also establish a stop-word or signal for when it’s time to say “enough.”
In Retrospect
As the lights of the bar began to flicker, the night had come to a close and the pleasure within the back room had to fade into the night. I left the bar knowing I’d experienced something truly special; something both intimate and naughty. I could feel my body still throbbing, nearly overwhelmed as I remember all of the steamy encounters. Even now I can almost taste the sweet but salty desire that lingered on my skin and in the air. As I walked home into the quiet night, I will never forget the passions and pleasures I found in the back room that has forever changed my sex life.
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